From the very beginning it was extremely important to me to create an isolated setting, where the protagonists are forced to confront their conflicts, complexes and anxieties. To not give them any opportunity for escape and to make them really work things through. During this, the feeling of being trapped, the unfulfilled desires and cravings, as well as the feeling of no longer being understood and being taken for granted, play a big part.
Another important point in the development of the film was to focus on the triangle relationship. Often after a relationship which lasted many years, one doesn’t only lose one‘s partner but also one’s home, the contact to the partner’s family or even the circle of friends. These circumstances put Tamara under pressure and so she can’t just disappear. There are too many things that still have to be done before she can go her own way. Be it in regards to emotional or bureaucratic business.
The three main characters are struggling to cope with their feelings of guilt, a constructive level of communication seems to be fading farther and farther away, resulting in desperation, constantly worsening accusations come to light. The question arises if the person who wants to get separated is responsible for the life-changing consequences for the people around her? Hans won’t be able to keep the house and her beloved father-in-law will have to move to a retirement home. But do these consequences justify staying in a seemingly unhappy relationship? These fears burden Tamara deeply. She realises that there are still quite a few conversations to be had and discussions to be endured until she can finally, maybe find peace.
Only as Hans begins to let go, Tamara starts to understand how she could fall in love with this person years ago. I thought about this aspect a lot. To find a moment in which she sees him in a different light again, even though she believed to know him inside out. In the course of this, creating moments, in which a closeness that was thought to be long lost can finally be found again.
The premise with which I chose to tackle such a universal subject, was not so much the question „If the couple separates“, but „How could a couple separate“ while creating inner, complex and slightly ambiguous suspense. The smallest, seemingly most unimportant moments in relationships were part of the key features. How people behave when they are driven into a corner and at which point selfishness and self-abandonment differ. To have to let go to allow your partner a possible freedom. These and further aspects were what we tried to show as open questions and while doing so, it was very important to me to show things as unbiased as possible, to enable the audience to really communicate with the film.